Todd Tidmore, Self Development Ideas

Author: Jan Williamson

We all have to face disappointment at one time or another. It’s just a simple fact of life. Not everything is always going to go our way. How we handle this disappointment plays a huge factor in our lives and in what we achieve in the future. It also says a lot about who we are and who we want to be. Knowing what to do after losing, is the biggest part about finding your way to winning.

The first thing one has to do to overcome disappointment is to examine the situation. Why were you disappointed and what caused it to happen? Figure out if it was something you personally did wrong or if it was simply out of your control. This way you can learn from the experience and use it the next time the situation arises. Try not to make yourself feel guilty if the disappointment was your own fault. Look at it form an objective point of view.

Once you’ve figured out what went wrong, you’re ready to move on. That’s the key - moving on. You can’t wallow in your pity and expect to get results. The disappointment may truly have thrown you a huge blow, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to move past it. Let go of the blame and guilt you may feel. Express your emotions - cry, yell or whatever else you need to do - but do it and then move on.

Next you’ll need to refocus your attention. Find a new goal or dream to pursue. You might even want to go after the same goal that disappointed you the first time. That’s great! Don’t give up. There are many great people who have failed countless times in this world. Failure doesn’t make you a loser. At least you had the courage to try and it’s that same courage that will eventually make you a winner. Find something new to get excited about and you’ll soon be on your way to success.

Disappointment isn’t a fun thing to face. It drags us down and lowers our self confidence. It’s easy to get caught in a rut after getting hit with disappointment, but it’s important not to do that. As they say, �get back on that horse.” Know that disappointment is a normal part of life. No single person is exempt from it and sometimes we will be disappointed due to nothing we’ve done wrong. Following the above tips will help you move on.

Author: Kevin Sinclair

You’ve felt it before, right? Frustration. It’s different for everyone, but we have all experienced it - its irritation, that feeling, making you want to pull your hair out, scream out loud, or throw things. It comes up sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly building. Frustration has many forms and varying degrees to it but no matter what degree or form it takes, it is not a positive emotion.

As a negative emotion frustration does nothing but cause stress, make it harder to focus and harder to complete tasks. To help remove frustration, it’s important for you to know what causes frustration and have a plan for getting rid of it.

Causes of Frustration

Just about anything can be a cause of frustration - a project at work, getting stuck in traffic when you’re late, or having guests over and dinner not all coming out on time. No matter the situation, if you feel like you’re running around in a circle, that’s frustration. No matter what form your frustration takes, it will reach a point where you can no longer handle the situation or the emotion.

When that happens, there’s usually a point when you quit, give up, walk away and are left with the feelings that doing such a thing causes - regret, self-loathing, or self-recrimination. That means the next time a similar situation comes around, it doesn’t take nearly as much going wrong to cause your frustration as it did the first time around. That is definitely something you want to avoid. So what can you do to help over come your frustrations before they reach the point of no return and cause you to quit?

What you can do to overcome frustration - Specific steps

The first thing to do when you start feeling frustrated is to take a deep breath, and relax. Do whatever you need to relieve the stress. Meditate if that helps, or watch a favorite TV show, or perhaps listen to some relaxing music. Whatever you do, make sure you step back from the situation causing your frustration. Once you have calmed down, take a look at the situation objectively, pull out the parts that you know are working. This way, you can see past the parts that are causing your frustration and take a really close look at the whole picture. This will also help you to see possible connections that can lead to resolving your frustration.

Keep a log, or a journal, or online blog and list the positive things in your life. List your accomplishments. Did you finish a hard project for school, or work? Did you finally get that wall painted or that part of the closet cleaned out? Write it down and check it after a month. It’s a lot easier to get rid of frustration when you can see all the positives instead of the negatives. It might also show you where you need to focus more in your life. Wasted energy is a surefire way to make yourself frustrated.

Once you see where you are wasting energy, focus on what you want to accomplish, the ultimate goal of whatever project or situation is causing the frustration for you. Step back to get a clear picture and then ask what you need to change to make sure that the same situation doesn’t arise again. Ask yourself what you can do to prevent that frustration.

It’s very easy with any project to get wrapped up in it. So much so that you can no longer see the project itself and sometimes even lose sight of the part of it you’re actually working on, and nothing is more frustrating than that. Get rid of the clutter, step back to the most simplified form. Be aware there are multiple solutions to any problem. Being more open to other ways of solving a problem is a good way to keep frustration from entering into the situation.

When you get ready to quit because you just can’t take it anymore, when the frustration is at its peak, take action and refuse to give up by pushing through and you’ll gain back control. Be positive. Nothing is harder to do when you’re frustrated, but without keeping in mind the positive outcome you’re looking for, frustration will just control the situation.

No matter what situation you’re in, follow these basic steps to get rid of your frustration and make sure frustration doesn’t come back.